Category Archives: Parenting Dilemmas

Holiday with a baby

Going on holiday with a little on can be tricky. You can end up taking everything apart from the kitchen sink. Here is an article where one mum shares her first holiday with a baby.

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After your first holiday, it can become easier as you find you don’t need so much like you do at the beginning.

I would always go pack based on how long I am away for and based on the place where we are staying, is there some where you can buy supplies, such as nappies, wipes, baby food etc.

Always take spares in your hand luggage.

So how do you prepare when you go on holiday? How much do you take?

I would love to hear from you.

 

Many thanks for reading,

 

Carrie x

 

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Scared about the bath

Yesterday giving my son a bath, he completely freaked out and was petrified. I think it was because when he had a stomach bug not long ago, and he had messed eveywhere the only way I could clear it was to hose him down. Not over his face or anything, just on his body and his legs.

I think it was the speed at which the water comes out, but yesterday all I ran was the tap and he went completely beserk, then my husband tells me off, whilst I am trying to calm him down which made the situation even worse, because of course we had a massive argument. This did not help.

So now I am frightened of giving him a bath, because usually he loves it. I don’t have it too hot, not with the hot weather, just a warmish bath, with some bath oil, and then I wipe him over with a sponge and then let him play for 5 minutes or so.

Yesterday was not like him at all, how can I get him to like them again?

I feel like I am on a loose end and don’t know how to reunite his love for a bath again.

I gave him a bath because he peed himself and I didn’t want him to be covered in wee, so thought I was doing the right thing, which turned out to be completely wrong.

How is your little one with a bath? Have they ever freaked out?

I would love to hear your story.

Many thanks for reading,

 

Carrie X

 

 

Sometimes I find it a struggle

I was contemplating whether to write about this or not, but feel as a mum this wouldn’t be a truthful blog if I didn’t, and I know I am not alone when I say that I find parenting a struggle at times.

I don’t go out all the time on my own with just myself as my son has the tendency still at the age of four, to run off and I have had nightmares about Henry disappearing whilst on my own, so I am little nervous about going out with me and Henry now. I know I will have to get over this, but at the moment I am trying all my best efforts to avoid such situations.

On rainy days it can be tough to entertain Henry indoors all the time, and a game of hide and seek can only last so long, same with playing catch or playing with his cups.

I got to thank my husband and my mum, for helping out, as it can feel like a long day on my own, so I do try to brake it up as much as possible.

When Henry has a meltdown it can be tricky to try and calm him down, for example if he has a medical appointment, he doesn’t like to sit still and wait and wants to run off and explore. Figuring out what to do him for his dinner, as he won’t touch any vegetables now, even though he loved them as a baby.

Toilet training is still being done and he still won’t go on the toilet, as much as I try and so I still have to put him in a pull ’em up whilst out or when he has a nap.

We are trying to get him out of napping now, as he will be starting school in September so I don’t want it to be too much of a shock for when he begins school. I know these moments won’t last forever but at the time it feels like they will.

One thing parenting has taught is make the most of the every moment and live for today, not for tomorrow or next week, but for today, as who knows what could happen tomorrow.

Do you get days when you struggle? How do you deal with them? Do you have any toilet training advice to give ? I would love to hear your suggestions.

Many thanks for reading,

 

Carrie X

 

 

Breastfeeding support

When it came to breastfeeding I found it really tough and not easy at all. I did get quite stressed over it, making sure I expressed every 8 to 12 times a day when my son was first born, and kept trying to breastfeed my son directly, but he never latched on.

For me when it comes to breastfeeding I think it should come down to personal choice, and what works for you and your baby.

Check these videos talking about breastfeeding, and some tips and advice.

Check out Emily Morris channel as she does loads of parenting videos, aswell as other subjects, I found her videos really helpful.

This is Lulastic Hippyshake, this Youtuber does videos about living in a Yurt in New Zealand, she talks about why she has continued on to breastfeed her child.

The advice I got from my Health Advisor was not to stress over breastfeeding but it is important that I enjoyed my baby and if I wanted to stop it was my choice.

I continued for a whole month to express milk and breastfeed but then stopped. I know some will frown upon that, but it was my choice, and as long my son was getting the nutrients he needed that was important.

If I had known then what I know now, I would have gotten counselling and further support when it came to breastfeeding to help me as I took it for grunted before my son was born of how difficult it would be and would have prepared myself better.

I would love to hear other people’s stories and how hard it was for you, did you find it easy or hard? What did you do to get help? I would love to hear from you.

Many thanks for reading,

 

Carrie X

 

 

 

 

Toilet Training videos

Check out these videos I discovered and found really interesting if you to are toilet training your child.

It can be a frustrating time for you and your little on, so getting tips and advice can work a treat, and knowing you aren’t alone can be comforting too.

The video above is worth watching as it talks about Elimination Communication, which some may call potty training from birth, but there is more to it than that. Watch the video above to find out if this is for you.

I found another video by Mom’s a mess, about how she potty trained her two year old son.

We are still going through the process but we keep trying and I think by continuing to keep changing him even when he has an accident in the bathroom is getting the message, that the toilet is where you go now if you need a wee or a pooh.

I did worry constantly about him having accidents but I have come to realise it is all part of the process and I just need to be patient and allow my son to learn in his own time.

I hope you find these helpful. I also found some videos on Potty Training on Channel mum website.

https://www.channelmum.com/

Please if you have some tips and advice on Toilet Training then all information will be truly welcoming,

Many thanks for reading,

 

Carrie X

Potty to Toilet Training

We have now decided to toilet train Henry rather than the Potty as it wasn’t going well and our son is still have accidents. We spoke to the Occupational Therapist who recommended the method to us.

When in doors he wears pants no nappy, so even if he does have an accident we take him upstairs to the toilet so he begins to make association and go through the method of him flushing the chain and washing his hands, so it becomes more structured routine.

Children with development delay can take longer to train. I felt so relieved now we don’t need to worry about the potty, and fingers crossed we will have better success.

I have come across some more helpful videos. Check this one out I watched yesterday about potty training.

I hope you find this helpful too.

Let me know if you have any tips and advice on toilet training I would love to hear from you.

Many thanks for reading,

 

Carrie X

Avoiding bugs for kids

With the weather being as it is, it is very easy to catch those nasty bugs, but they are avoidable by regularly sanitizing yourself ( washing your hands and body thoroughly) and your home.

It is tricky to fit in cleaning all the time, but doing a quick clean can make all the difference too just little bits can help keeps bugs at bay.

Keep wipes in each room so you can wipe any dirty mark away and keep polish upstairs as well as downstairs, keeping them away from the reach of children.

Clean as you go, just a quick tidy as you move around the house can help keep up to date with chores and put bleach down the toilet everyday, again keeping out of reach from children.

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Regularly change your sponges and cloths because these can have bacteria build up on them if continuously used and not replaced, and ring them out to dry.

Wash hands all the time when touching raw meats, chemical cleaning products and after you have been to the toilet. You’ll be surprised how many people you know and see that don’t do that, and I find it shocking that adults I know who don’t and they seem to be oblivious to the fact that they haven’t washed their hands. It takes two seconds and should be a natural thing to do, like breathing.

Put clothes straight into the washing machine instead in laundry basket as they can build with bacteria and wash clothes separately to towels and tea towels.

Use (this not an ad but a brilliant product) Detol all in one spray brilliant and kills bacteria.  Don’t forget to spray this on surfaces continuously used, on sofas, potty’s and door handles, bathroom, wherever you come into constant contact with.

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So if you have any more tips that I have missed then please share I would love to hear from you.

Many thanks for reading,

 

Carrie X

Gift guide for babies and toddlers

There are so much choice when it comes to buying gifts for babies and toddlers that you can easily become overwhelmed and just want to hide underneath the duvet, and say “NOOOO CHRISTMAS COMING TOO SOON”.

However do not be scared you can get through it she says, having two more people to buy for. Already started Christmas shopping, but I have to because if I don’t I fear I will forget, and end up with nothing.

Also I don’t like that panic feeling so I start planning my Christmas gifts from January onwards I know I am crazy I hold my hands up.

So what do you buy?

This year I have gone for books and jewellery not giving too much away.

Why not buy a pop-up book, where they can open up some pages in the book for example my son loves the book called “I wrote to the zoo to send me a pet”

He loves this book and really helps them to engage in the book as there are some hidden animals inside and encourages to use their communication skills, by helping them to say the words of each animal.

I found this lovely Paddington bear book from Whsmiths, it is Paddington Bear goes to London, price £25.00, and it is a popup book too and bought this for my son and my niece for Christmas, one they can keep for when they have children on their own too. These gifts are great for passing down to each generation.

Paddington Pop-Up London: Movie tie-in: Collector'S Edition

The other thing is find a lovely children’s jewellery box and put little treats inside, and create a little hamper for them so they have some little gifts inside and it doesn’t have to be jewellery.

These just suggestions and a great way to personalise  your gifts.

So let me know what gifts you are buying for the children in your life this year it will be great to hear from you.

Many thanks for reading,

 

Carrie X

 

Looking for schools

This last couple of months I have been checking out Primary schools, due to my son being 4 years old, and will start school next year in September. If you are a new mum like me, and your son or daughter is going to begin in next September too, then this is the times to be looking around.

Some schools will have like an open day, where they will give a little brief presentation of the school and then you are shown around.

What I am looking for is,

  • How big is the school
  • How many kids per class
  • What activities and learning strategies do they follow
  • Will what their goals are help my son in anyway
  • How they have presented the school
  • Will Henry (my son) be given the learning and education he needs

I am no expert here, this is all new to me too, so I am giving tips from what I have been looking for which hand in hand, I hope will help you find a good school for your child too.

My next step now, now I have seen all the schools I have wanted, to now decide on the choices of schools I want my son to hopefully go to next September.

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Don’t just pick one school, choose the ones that suit your criteria, and check out the children ready attending the school their body language, do they look as though they enjoy school, and what have they gained from going to that particular school.

Going on the schools I have visited, it is the children that are attending the school that will show you round, so do ask them questions, and what they like about the school they go to.

Here is some more information I found on the website below, which has further information to help you:

http://www.gettherightschool.co.uk/howtochoosetherightschoolforyourchild.html

It is good to have a few listed as your chosen schools, so you aren’t too disappointed should your child not get into that particular school.

If you are looking for nursery schools, should your child be 5 years and under the time to apply in Epsom and Ewell is by January of the new year, ready for your child to begin nursery school in September.

Check out your local authority to find out when you should apply, how and when by.

I will write more about this as I go and what is the next step.

If you live in surrey then please see link of the admissions process below, for those starting Nurery, Reception and Infants:

https://www.surreycc.gov.uk/schools-and-learning/schools/school-admissions/primary-junior-and-infant-applications

Many thanks for reading,

Carrie X