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Bed-wetting

Bed-wetting is very common in young children, and I am not afraid to admit I used to wet the bed too as a young child, as I would be often be too scared to go to the toilet on my own.

Now my son in experiencing the same, so I will go with him to help avoid the bed from getting wet.

Be patient with your child and remember it is just a phase that they will grow out of. If you feel there may be more of a problem to their bed-wetting then do seek medical support, as going from wearing nappies to not, can be a massive transition for your child especially at night time.

It has started to become less and less. There are bed mats you can buy to put on their bed, underneath their sheet to protect their mattress from getting wet. For us they have worked massively.

The ones we buy are from ASDA Little Angels, and are really good value for money.

Make sure you have spare bedding so you can easily change this over if wet. It may mean do a lot more washing of your bedding and bed clothes, but stick with it as now a few nights Henry, our son, hasn’t wet the bed at all, so do be persistent, and try the dream wee, so getting them up whilst a sleep and sitting them on a potty or toilet if not too far, and take them straight back to bed once they are done.

This has worked a treat, and try avoiding drinks an hour before bed time, but make sure they stay hydrated through out the daytime instead.

I hope you found this useful and if you have any questions then feel free to ask. You can comment below or fill out the form below, and remember to follow me on WordPress.com if you would like to read more of my blogs to come.

Many thanks for reading,

Carrie X

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Teaching our kids everyday tasks

Teaching Children about everyday tasks like putting their shoes away once they have taken them off, really has helped with my sons development and so it important you try and get them to do everyday things each day.

Henry knows that when he leaves a room of example to close the door, and to take his school uniform off and get changed once he is home from school, and does his homework.

I came across these video about how to get your child to do activities that include everyday tasks, and how you can make there items they need more accessible.


Cleaning up after themselves once they have eaten, gone to the toilet and after they have played with toys, to encourage them to tidy them away before using another item to play with.

When they have eaten put their plates in the sink, and yes I will once my son it tall enough, will have him learn to wash up after himself too.

I think it is so important for their independence to establish everyday skills. So if they aren’t able to open a draw or cupboard, show them but don’t tell them, and they will then establish how to do it themselves.

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Many thanks for reading,

Carrie X

Potty training

Yes we are potty training at the moment, and yesterday Henry used his potty for the first time and actually had a pea.

Why am I sharing this?

Well because I know how tricky of a transition it is. One minute they are in nappies next they are having to use this plastic thing and it is a different ball game altogether.

We did have a little accident the day before, I won’t say anymore, but I had to stick Henry straight in the bath, but least it happened in the right place, the bathroom, just not in the potty itself, well some of it was but I hadn’t realised until I trod straight into it.

My fault!

As said before you can prepare yourself but you can never really plan, when it comes to children.

Sorry for the TMI. Henry will probably be totally embarrased if he reads this when he is 18 years old. However it is out of good reason to help and give support to other mums, who may also be potty training now too.

If your child is potty training at the moment too, then my advice is to persist and be patient. If they aren’t ready then do not fear, you will soon know when they are. Henry was even asking for the potty and tells us when he needs his nappy changed. So children do pick up new skills quicker than what we think they do.

So true when it comes to children, every day is different, and you don’t know what to expect, so you just have to continue on, the best you can.

Anyway I will keep you updated on more news and what I am learning as a parent.

Thanks for reading,

 

Carrie X

 

An Update on Parenting

So since the last time I posted a blog on this page my son has grown and developed so much, he is now saying many words and trying to mimic sounds, and wants to explore wherever we go.

At 2 years old their routine does change slightly and between 10 months to 2 years their transition from a baby to a toddler as they start to lose their baby features into a little child, quadruples as they start to do more new things each day.

They say “Health professionals” that a child who was born premature have caught up by the time they are 2 years old, but in watching and observing my son, I do not believe this to be true, as it depends on each child. Every child is different, and no matter what it may say on a chart doesn’t mean that this is the case. Their numbers and charts are based on statistics a lot of the time, but not on fact. I can see for myself where Henry is advanced in his age and development and where he still got some catching up to do.

He is very social and interactive. His observation is second to none, but he is still got some catching up to do in terms of speaking and feeding himself. We are getting there but just needs a bit more persistence from us and practice.

We are now looking into nurseries for Henry, which he is ready to go, and this will really help a lot. You will find that between 10 months to 2 years their nap times will change as they continue to grow, having more growth spurts, meaning that their appetite may increase.

When Henry has a tantrum it usually is because he is trying to tell us something but he gets frustrated because he can’t properly communicate yet, and so we do try to step back and observe him to find out what it is. It is usually is because, he is thirsty, needs his blanket over him as he will fuss if we put it over him straight away, we will usually do this when he is a sleep as he has always been a very warm little boy, he needs another nappy change and wants to sleep but can’t, nose needs clearing or he just wants to know that someone is there. We will have the light deemed slightly before he goes off. We also do a bedtime ritual that includes calm peaceful music, deemed light, all toys away, dinner, brush of teeth, last nappy change and then story time.

It can be mind boggling sometimes to workout what to do, when they won’t settle or they have melt down, or how to get them from fussing when out and you’reToddler melt down image trying to have some time out and have a coffee, but you just have to do your best, forget about those onlookers and those that give that look as if to say “Can’t you quiet him down I’m trying to have a coffee too” but then remember you will never be the first one, that is what children do, as soon as they find they feet they want to be off. A great place to go is the Soft Play Cafe’s as you are with other parents, children can play and you can still have a coffee and chat.

I did see if I could provide a link to a list of Soft Play Cafes but there doesn’t appear to be one. I found out about these by accident when I was looking for the Gymboree class I was going to take Henry to and then heard about the ones close by where I live.

The Soft Play Cafes are brilliant as an alternative to the park, because lets face it living in the UK you never know what the weather will be like and if it is running cats and dogs outside then these Play Cafes are the place to go.

There are also many classes like Monkey Music which I take Henry to once a week for half and hour, and they have different classes from 3-6 months, 7-12 months, 1-2 years, 2-3 years and 3-4 years.

It is teaching children different skills through music. I have seen how much this has helped Henry as he is learning when to sit still, when his name is called to walk over he will and high-five, tap on the box and will now walk around the room with me, instead of fighting against me which he used to do.

So I will report back soon. I now have YouTube Channel Carries Realworld where I film Days in My Life, about Parenting, Hauls, My home organisation, cooking and baking, and sharing the favourite parts of my life.

I also have a new website called www.carriesrealworld.com

So many thanks for reading, and see you again soon.

 

Carrie X

 

 

What to pack in your baby bag plus, see my new blog on wordpress page The Birth of My baby Son

HI All,

Please see link below of my new blog on my other wordpress page The Birth Of My Baby Son.

https://theparentingadventures.wordpress.com/

If you are a new mum or a mum-to-be then heres help on what to pack in your baby bag.

  • 4 vests
  • 2 spare baby grows or tops and bottoms
  • 5 nappies
  • Pack of baby wipes and a spare if your current opened pack is low.
  • Nappy cream
  • A couple of toys
  • 4 snacks if they are weaning.
  • A food pouch for lunch, already made finger food (pieces of cucumber, a fruit such as banana or melon, cheese, ham with little pieces of bread or crackers) or a sandwich.
  • A bottle of water or milk, depending on age of baby. 0-1 water or milk (if still having milk during the day and not being breastfed) 12 months+ bottle of water if no milk now during the day.

This is a guide on what I have packed for my son, as they grow you will find you may need less, example vests I now take 2 and 1 spare top and a pair of bottoms if really mucky or any nappy accidents occur.

I thought I would share this to help as when your baby first arrives you can end up taking everything accept the kitchen sink so gives you an idea of what to pack. Please, please, one lesson I learned is not to spend a lot of money on a baby changing bag. I did and only used twice and now given this away. I bought a cheaper one from Avon, which I now use all the time and I will most a picture of this along with my vlog created to show you what I currently pack for my son when going out. Now sometimes I don’t use a changing bag on some occasions, and use my see-through toiletry bag as it fits perfectly in the basket underneath the pushchair and a separate handbag for his bottle, sun cream and my belongings.

Many thanks for reading,

Carrie X

The Style of Weaning

My new blog on The Parenting Adventures, which has also being published on my blog website: www.carrieshomemadelife.com.

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You have all the food prepared, which has been blitzed, your son like mine may freak out a bit because of the noise of the blender which you say to him “Don’t worry just getting your dinner ready” him looking at you trying to suss out what it is you are actually saying.

It is pureed or to the point where some bits are chunky as now you want to encourage him to start chewing, using his new set of teeth that have come through; you have him sitting in his high chair or baby chair that can be moved up so you baby can sit up right, you put his bib on and you get the muslin and kitchen towel ready, for any spillages and dribbles.

Your son knows now that when he see this colourful little bowl that it is meal time, you spoon the food to feed him and takes a taste and screws his face as if to say “What on earth is this?”.

You think oh no “Is it good or bad?” and you serve him another bit of the food and he turns his head away, swishing his hand to push the spoon away which now it is all over your son and yourself, and you think “lets add more milk or warm water and still he turns away, screams as if to say “No this is disgusting stop serving this muck”, and you feel that all your efforts to preparing this lovely dish for your child was a complete waste of time.

Your child has no idea how long it has taken to prepare this food, the courage it took especially if not cooked or made a fresh meal before but you wanted to for your little one. It can be so frustrating and you can feel like it is a personal attack on you.

At the moment you may not believe me when I say “It isn’t anything personal” you see what I think is misunderstood and I have realised this watching my little bubs develop from when I first saw him in his incubator was that they make decisions from the moment they are born. E.g. when our son was tiny and a day old, he didn’t like being stroked he would wriggle and make a little wincing sound as if to say “whoever that is get off I am trying to sleep”.

When they don’t like certain foods it is their way of learning what they like and don’t like by tasting different foods and flavours. It can be off putting when they refuse to eat some food you have prepared, but it is part of their development. When they do like a meal you have made, then it will 1. Be a relief 2. See if they have sweet tooth or like sour foods, or both 3. If they have any foods that disagrees with them (allergy, gives them a bade tummy or makes them sick).

It can be hard work but it can also be a great time and fun. I would say try sweet potatoes, white potatoes, carrots, bananas, sweetcorn, peas, and added to baby rice for example, mixed in with their milk can really help just blitz down at first so there are no bits, as at first they need to get used to the tastes and the foods, and then when they get to 9 months or so you can make it a little chunkier to encourage them to chew.

At the moment our son is not really getting finger foods, as he will put in his mouth, bang it on his walk or high chair then throw it on the floor. If you have not got used to mess, then you will do by the time your son has gotten used to normal foods. I say make sure you have your Dettol wipes and baby wipes at hand for any mess made, you just have to accept that babies are mucky, they see it as something they can eat, throw and spread all over any surface they come into contact with.

For good ideas on help with baby food their are some great tips on The Baby Centre and Net Mums.

I found the HiPP, Heinz, Elle’s Kitchen and Boots Organic food pouches were brilliant and still using them up to 10 months plus, to the food pots for 1-3 years. However it whatever works for your baby, some may take to the jars better or from home fresh foods. I do a mixture of using the pouches and making some meals for our son with our own food, to get him used to eating what we eat.

For the record Boots, Wilkinsons, Morrisons, Sainsburies and Asda, all do some great deals on baby food from all the stages of weaning.

I hope this useful to all those mums out there, and lets get our babies fed.

Many thanks for reading,

Carrie X

One year on

My son is now 14 months and I think to myself where has the time gone.

I still get amazed with how much he had grown, to those who have subscribed on my wordpress site, many thanks.

I will be using this form of blogging again, but I do have a blog website too where I also post blogs about my parenthood adventures on http://www.carrieshomemadelife.com

It has been an amazing experience, challenging but I would not change it for the world.

We have had tears and tantrums when trying to wean him onto our food aswell as baby food. Thank the lord for Elle’s Kitchen, Aptamil, Heinz and Boots do a good range of their own baby food too, and do a great price on nappies.

However seeing him eat a Petit Filous yogurt, a bit of chocolate (I know not the best thing to give please don’t judge me just wanted to see if he liked it or not) and little pieces of bread, which he has liked has been indescribable same with seeing him smile, talk, hold his head up, crawl, sit up and now standing for the first time.

Being a mum has changed my life and also my views on things. I think as you get older your look on things changes and opinions as you do see things differently when you reach certain stages of your life. Example how I saw things when I was 20 is now different to how I see things now as I am now in my 30’s. Being a mum changes the way you see things too, like working and on things such as bullying how I see myself, because I know that if I am not careful my son will pick up on my insecurities.

Also I have to watch what I say, trying not to swear is hard. I know I need to do it we tried the swearing box but didn’t last as I would have had no money at all. However with practice and persistence my cursing has got a lot better.

I do have to do things out of my comfort zone, like at the moment I am looking for a Childminder and it is hard trying to find a good total stranger to look after my child. Obviously I will meet them first but as a mum I can’t help but worry and the prospect of having to call around and meet up with the person I do get very apprehensive as I find certain social situations difficult.

However I know it will get sorted and I am enjoying present at the moment with my son but also looking forward to the future too.

Many thanks for reading,

Carrie X

10 things I’ve learned as a parent

1. That I need 4 hands instead of two, I can multi task but some things such as pushing a pram whilst holding a shopping basket around supermarket just impossible.

2. How to change my sons nappy whilst competing a personal best, without him screaming he actually smiles and loves nappy change time. He just screams when clothes have to go back on, he loves baby massage and would recommend this class to all new mums or new mums to be.

3. How much I love the weekends when I can properly recuperate and let daddy take over, even though I still do the 4am feed of a morning; don’t know how that one works out but never mind.

4. How to bake and entertain my son at the same time lay him on his play mat or changing mat so he can watch TV or turn to see me so I can speak to him whilst I bake. Doesn’t last long though, but I enjoy the moment whilst it lasts.

5. How my husband can be given instructions about feeding and forget within 2 seconds and does something completely different to what I’ve said. Sorry guys don’t wanna be sexist but you do appear to have short term memory problems. To all mums write it down or send a text, and I know it gets on there nerves but nagging just does a purpose and appears to help daddy to remember.

6. I don’t mind people coming up to me and telling how much my baby has so much hair and is gorgeous, as it is nice, but why do they do it when I am carrying a heavy basket of shopping around a supermarket and trying to push the pram at the same time, hence whilst the majority of my shopping is done online. This brings me back to number 1, we ladies need more hands.

7. How teleshopping in the morning and the food network channel brings me delight when feeding my son at 4am. I tell you there are some good products out there, and good thing I don’t have time or money to buy otherwise I would be in serious debt.

8. Speaking to other mums is a God send and gives me comfort sharing experiences and I know I am not the only one who feels tired all the time. However good to speak to experience mums who know that things will get better as I am told. So even though I do suffer from insomnia and always have done, I should at some point get at least a good amount of sleep again.

9. That seeing my sons smile first thing in the morning makes up for my lack of sleep and I love that I get plenty of cuddles.

10. That how much it can be hard at times, every minutes counts to me to now and would not change or want to miss a thing.

So now my son is over 4 months and now passed 10 pounds, it is wonderful to see him do different and new things each day.  Everyday is different as not sure what to expect half of the time, but love the fact that I get to spend the first years of my sons life seeing him grow.

Many thanks for reading,

 

Carrie x

 

What do you do when your child doesn’t settle ?

Today was a challenge as my 3 month old son Henry would not settle today, he was happy for a while but doesn’t appear to settle down on his own at the moment and it is very hard.

I tried feeding him early which he did drink as I think he does get extra hungry during the day now, which is good in one respect as at least it isn’t at night time, but even this didn’t settle him. He did fall a sleep on me after his feed this afternoon and gave him extra to his normal amount and appeared to be sound a sleep. As soon as I put him in his Moses Basket his eyes opened and started to cry again. I tried to push the basket up and down as this does calm him but as soon as I stopped he would start to cry again.

I went through the changing of the nappy, but was fine, so it was a long old day today. He did settle a bit when Glen my husband took over whilst I went for a run but not for very long.

He seems to be more unsettled except yesterday as I gave him an earlier feed yesterday afternoon which did work,  but towards the end of the evening he appears more unsettled even after his last feed in the evening, but once he does sleep he is a sleep for a long time until the morning now which is a blessing.

Any advice would be greatly appreciated.

Many thanks for reading,

 

Carrie X