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Watch “10 Simple Sensory Activities for Toddlers | DIY Baby Entertainment” on YouTube

Check out this video of 10 simple sensory activities. Some really good ideas

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Teaching children about love

As it is valentines day tomorrow I wanted to write about teaching children about Love.

I think you can do it by the simple things like giving your child a cuddle and a kiss, letting them have the things they love but in moderation of course.

I want my son to be respectful to others and be kind, and he is already started to do that. Apparently there is a little who he goes to school with, who cries all the time when she has to go to school, and our son gives her a hug all the time.

The one thing my son is, is very affectionate which I think it is a lovely trait to have.

I don’t think showing you love someone should happen just on valentines day, but through out your life with that person, even if it is giving them a hung, cooking them dinner, buying a gift, just showing that you care is a good way to teach love to our children, and it should be embraced.

I know there are people who don’t agree with kissing your children, and that is up to them, but I don’t see what is wrong with it, as long you don’t have a cold sore or are sick, then giving a kis is a nice to way to show love.

Same with a hug. I love having cuddles with my son, whilst watching TV or a film, it’s what helps us to bond as mother and son, and that to me is important.

Many thanks for reading,

Carrie X

Building children’s confidence with water

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Image from: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fApPZBFuU3A

Bath times in our house are tricky, because our son doesn’t like it, I don’t know why he doesn’t I make it as relaxing as possible and he goes in okay, but soon as he goes in he wants to come out.

He doesn’t like getting his hair wet and really puts up a fight to get out of the bath when it comes to washing his hair.

Building a child’s confidence with water is an essential part of their growing and I am going to in the summer take him swimming again, as last time we did it really helped build his confidence.

One tip I would give is to get into the bath aswell. If you can get into the bath with them so they can see that you are seating down and it is okay, and usually children will follow by example, once they know it is okay.

Once I have finished washing my sons hair I say “All over” and then he is fine and I take him out of the bath.

Sometimes I will encourage him as much as possible to play in the bath with his boat and there was a point he would, but he has become weary of sitting in the bath again.

He will stand in the bath, so we have put in a bath mat to stop him from slipping, which isn’t a problem I just wish he would be a lot more confident.

It is always me he trusts to give him a bath, he doesn’t like it when my husband gives him a bath, which I again not sure why, as at one point they were really bonding through bath time. It was kind of their time together.

So it a working progress, but like everything else, doing it gradual and being persistent is the key to helping them to build their confidence. Not allowing them near water at all won’t help, as they need to see there is nothing to be scared about.

Many thanks for reading,

Carrie X

Stressful Parenting

I wrote a blog on my site called Everyone can build a castle on wordpress.com about Dealing with Stress 

I talk about how I get so stressed out when it comes to taking my son to school, and I have even written a post called Getting children to school where I talk about getting a child to school and doing it gradually.

If you suffer with anxiety like I do, doing things gradually rather than all in one go, really helps lower the pressure and helps me get through the morning.

Once my son is in school I breath a sigh of relief and get on with my day.

Why as parents do we get so stressed?

I wish I knew the answer but I think it is the overwhelming pressure in my case of getting my son to school safely as there are some big roads in between.

I picture the worse case scenario to help make myself aware of the dangers that can happen. It makes me take extra care not to let Henry cross the road without checking whats coming first, so he will eventually learn to do the same.

My husband says I panic over the slightest thing, but I am worrier, and I can’t help but worry, it is part of my DNA I have come to realise.

Does it make me being a worrier effect me as a parent?

I think so but I’d rather be aware of the dangers rather than not, and I know that the stress isn’t gonna last for long, it is only for 20 minutes or so.

The same goes when it comes to toilet training, has Henry had an accident at school or not, so far he has been accident free, and getting to bed especially during the night can be stressful aswell, but again I just tell myself eventually he will go back to sleep, and everything will be alright.

Many thanks for reading,

Carrie X

Teaching my son about the new year

Teaching children about the new year I think is important, so they become aware of the changes the new year brings, example they know that in the new year they go back to school.

They may not understand about the new year but I think it is important to make them aware of what the new year means.

I want my son to get to know that we celebrate the new year, by taking him out, allow him if he wants to, to stay up late to see the fireworks up close or on the TV.

Let him see that we kiss when the clock strikes 12 and that we sing afterwards. If he decides later in life not to celebrate the new year then that is fine, it is up to him, but it good for him to see that the new years is a good thing not something bad.

So lets raise our glasses and I wish you all a happy new year. See you in 2019.

Many thanks for reading,

Carrie X

Getting Children to go to school

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Getting a child to school can be tricky, getting my son ready for school can take its time as my son, if he could walk out the house naked or in his Pajamas he would.

I do things gradually so we gradually have Henry eat his breakfast and then at 8 minutes passed seven each morning that’s when we get Henry dressed ready for school. We have started to get him to do it himself, so putting on his pants, trousers and shirt.

I will admit some mornings I do have to wrestle with him to get him dressed. So not always easy.

Once my son is dressed I then I find everything else just fits into place. Getting into a routine is helpful, for both you as the parent and for the child so they know at this time of the day, this when we get dressed, put our shoes on, brush our teeth and one last trip to the toilet, as my fear is getting caught short, and Henry needing a toilet stop on the way to school.

Once we are out of the house it takes a long time to get to school, because my son wants to look and watch everything going passed, the birds, the buses, the squirrels, cars and other children going to school, so I make sure I leave with plenty of time.

The worst thing I hate the most is rushing, and if I can avoid it I will do.

If they do have a melt down on the way then stop, get down to their level and explain that it is OK, and try and take their mind off of it, by looking at the nature or things around them.

Keep letting them know how far away they are and that they doing really well in walking, and don’t worry if they have a meltdown as these will pass.

Children are just like us we get anxious over new experiences and changes, and children aren’t any different. As they start feeling their emotions they become more aware of what is happening around them.

I get anxious but I try to hide it, as I don’t want my fears to effect Henry in anyway and be afraid to go to school.

Many thanks for reading,

Carrie X

Teacher’s Gifts

I feel like a scrooge today because I saw parents today giving gifts to the teachers and I didn’t. I gave a Christmas card and contribute £5 to a group gift from the parents, but feel kind of stingy.

Should I buy his teacher a gift or teachers?

I thought you gave gifts at the end of the school year, or am I being totally naive?

The school has done a great job with Henry but is looked after by another teacher, so I would need to buy 5 different gifts.

I am all new to the school thing and just getting my son too school is always a mission.

I just found an article on the Metro talking about this various subject. See link below:

So what do you do, do you buy your child’s teacher a gift?

Am I being stingy about not giving an extra gift even though I did contribute £5 to a group gift?

I would love to hear your thoughts.

Many thanks for reading,

Carrie X

Gift Ideas For Kids

Are you having trouble finding gifts for the children in your life?

Do they more less have everything?

Finding gifts for kids each Christmas can be tough especially if they have brothers and sisters who pass on their toys to their siblings. I remember as a kid I got a lot of gifts sets which I still love till this day, or it was cassette tape, a record or as got older a CD.

Check with their parents if the children have written a list and see if you can get something on the parents list, to save them getting it.

I have gone for journals this year for presents, clothes and story books, as you can’t go wrong with a book or a little journal notebook, especially if the children are into writing.

My son for his birthday received a dustcart toy, which when you press the button on top it moves forwards and back, and tips the bin up like a real dustcart and my son loves it. He also have a fire engine toy which he loves to play with too. 

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Image is from: 
www.alza.co.uk


Choose a puzzle or a game that the family can play is always good and gets everyone together on Christmas day, and breaks the ice. As a kid growing up it was a tradition to play card games or a board game, it kind of breaks up the day.

The games my son loves to play with his Mr Men cards and playing matching  pairs, and helps them with their memory and observation skills.


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Image from: https://www.orchardtoys.com/buy/penguin-pairs-mini-game_121.htm

Knowing what to buy each year can change as they begin to grow and get into new things each year. 

If you stuck on toys to buy why not buy an experience, like one year I bought my nieces an experience at Chessington World of Adventures, and they got to feed the giraffes there. 

I found this Video from YouTube which shows you the experience. 

https://www.chessington.com/explore/chessington-vip-adventures.aspx

So I hope this is helpful to you and will give you those last minute ideas. 

Many thanks for reading, 

Carrie X 

Dealing with Bumps and Scrapes

As a child I was always coming home with a plaster on my leg, cut my head open whilst playing with my brother who when playing football disclicated his arm, it happens accidents do happen and this week I got a phone call from my son’s school because he had split his head open.

It so happened I was on a course for the whole day, but my husband was off so I had to give him a call to go to the school, but to keep me posted to let me know how he was.

If they do come home with a cut leg, clean it up with a sterile wipe and cover with a plaster, if it is a broken arm, leg, cut on he head seek medical advice, as with head injuries could lead to other problems, such a dizziness and sickness.

Never leave them standing up, they should be seated or lying down. If unconcious, lay them into the recover position, don’t move then if unsure, and seek medical help straight away.

We were advised by the doctors to give Henry 24 hours before he returned to school and must not get his head wet, as the glue holding his cut together could come away and start bleeding again.

Try and stay as calm as possible even if the child is hysterical.  Get some support for yourself as it can be traumatic for everyone.

Make sure if it is done at nursery or at school an accident report is written and signed.

Many thanks for reading,

Carrie X

Avoiding coughs and colds

This time of year at least someone I know will get a sticking cold, and usually Henry my son will get a cold as soon as the weather begins to change. 

So how can you avoid those horrible coughs and cold?

Teach your child to put their hand in front of their mouth, and make sure you have plenty of tissues to hand. Teach them to wash their hands regularly and give them a nice warm bath.

Keep them wrapped up and use Calpol if your child is not allergic but if they have a temperature and always have a thermometer to hand, as we keep us near by in the kitchen at all times just in case. 

Sometimes a cold is unavoidable and having a cold will  help make their anti bodies stronger and their immune system, but at the same time you want to make sure it doesn’t get any worse, and if you are concerned then do book an appointment with the doctor or speak to your health adviser. 

Make sure the child is well hydrated and check their diet. I am guilty of giving my son sugary food and I know it is bad, so I do make sure now that when he goes to school he has a piece of fruit to take with him aswell as his cup with water in it. 

If they are really bad then do avoid then going to school especially if they have a temperature as coughs and colds are contagious. 

Many thanks for reading, 

Carrie X