Lastnight, Sunday evening as I start this blog and winding down time, my son poured a bag of toys, because he wants to play with dinosaurs, all on the floor. He asks me about them and being honest, not my specialist subject. He knows them better than I do and I want my son to have fun, because it is good for him to play with his toys, and different ones, and this morning he had done the same.
He was a bit reluctant in tidy up as he went to play with something else after pouring his dinosaurs all over the floor and made sure he tidied up, and before he went to play with something else and in learning as a parent, it is good practice because they are more prone to look after their toys when it comes to tidying up.
Having a child with ADHD and on the Autism Spectrum, it can be challenging for them to concentrate and so in between playing at home, I take him out to burn off some energy and we go on regular walks and playing sports and it helps me help him. For the first in ages my son yesterday after walking he played in a the park on the swings and and then he wanted to go back home and then part of the day had him do some reading, which he can be again reluctant to do, and then had some screen time. This I eliminate as being on his tablet all day is not good and want him to do different things and so in the morning we played some darts, which is fun but won’t put it away when finished, so an area we need to work on and do some more learning, but not easy, as he will pretend he doesn’t know when we know he does and recently when he does his swimming class he will hold himself back, and not show his full potential, and this, as a parent can be frustrating.
We don’t have a strict regime, and seems to be doing a lot more better learning at his new school, which is a Land school for children who have learning difficulties and I feel I could do more in terms of help with his learning too, because I and thinking of ideas that will gain his focus and to want to do more learning that is fun. I think when it comes to learning, and I can be the same, it can feel like a chore, and so need to break that up, but do learning games and do different activities as he said on Sunday that he’d like to paint things.
When Henry was a baby he had real sensory issues with paints and sand, and wouldn’t play with using these, to create things and to help with that he had Occupation Therapy which I highly recommend, and wish it lasted a lot longer before he went to school, as it taught me to understand about how to help him concentrate and not run around all of the time.
He when he first began walking would want to walk in the opposite direction and whenever we’d go shopping would want to run around and couldn’t browse and it would be tough putting him back into the pushchair. I know I will get nods whoever reads this bit, as I know it wasn’t just my child and their a parents having that issue now. Let me tell you, it does pass, even though it can feel it won’t.
Giving a time limit helps and stick by it as I wouldn’t and think “He won’t know what is ten minutes is” and let them know ahead of time what time playtime in the park will end and can play in the park for how long, as long as they don’t run around or scream blue murder, when shopping or my son would sit down and go all limp when trying to pick him up.
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Many thanks for reading,
Carrie X
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