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Arranging a birthday party/Never try to please everyone its truly impossible

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Picture of where Henry (my son) had his birthday party this year . Was at the Leatherhead Gymnaisum.

 

Have you ever arranged a birthday party for 30 or so children and got to the point where you wish the ground could swallow you up?

Don’t feel bad if you have because trust me you are not alone. Today it was my son’s birthday party, which we held at the gymnasium in Leatherhead and as much as all the kids loved it including Henry as he cried when he got home because he didn’t want it to be over, I am glad it is.

Tip 1# If you do choose this venue for a birthday party or any place that has a coffee and tea machine provided make sure they can provide milk for it, we didn’t realise they didn’t and they hadn’t mentioned it when it was booked, or when we went to see the venue before the party so we could get an idea of the setting, which should have been done. 

At the end of the day you are paying a lot of money so if you see they have such a machine do ask about milk and why they don’t provide it especially when guests arrive and they have to pay for it. 

Please don’t misunderstand me, it was good to see the mums from Henry’s school, family and a friend who we know outside school, whilst the kids played but I was very happy when it was all over and done.

When it comes to arranging a birthday party:

  • I would save as much as you can from the day after the party or from their birthday to the next year. I am so glad I set aside some money for it, because it really did help matters. I will admit we did have help with financing the birthday party, because we in no means would have been able to do it, if not, but I am still glad I set some money aside that would help us too. This will continue on for next year. 
  • Have an idea a year ahead of what you plan to do even if nothing is booked, but don’t be set upon it as children’s likes and dislikes of things can change. Example: They may like Peppa Pig now, but this can soon change, so just have an idea, but try and keep note by observing your child every now and again, to see what they really are into, as often we can lose track.
  • Do have a budget and create a spreadsheet, a diary or a log book of who is coming, what you will need and how much everything will cost. You do not need to spend the earth on items. Invitations you can make your own, if you have a computer and a printer then away you go. Other option make them and get your kids involved. I got all our items from Sainsbury’s, Poundland and ASDA.
  • Shop around and do some research before buying. If I can buy and save at the same time I do.
  • When selecting the venue find out about parking, what public transport there is and take note of the address so you can inform your guests, and check out the venue first before decorating so you have an idea of the space and area you will have.
  • Anything that can save you time as there are other things to need to worry about other than making sure every kid has a balloon for example and delegate if you can. Never try to do it all yourself because lets face it we are only one person. You will find that many parents will help out on the day too and if they offer and there is stuff to be done TAKE THEM UP ON IT AS THEY MAY NOT OFFER AGAIN!
  • Anything that yo can do ahead of time do it. Trust me it will be a god send in the end.
  • Plan your outfit and I made this mistake but will learn next time, which will be in a couple of years, because I am not giving Henry a birthday party every year, as I do think its important to do different things, and it is expensive to do it every year, but paint my nails a day or two ahead. I wasted so much time painting my nails, because they smudged and I got nail varnish on another finger as I was trying to put the lid back on the nail polish, that in the end I gave up.
  • Never try to please everyone as it is just truly impossible. There was a person moaning during the party, not naming names and I just thought to myself “Just ignore” at the end of the day you aren’t there to make everyone happy but be accommodating yes because there will be those who can’t eat certain food or drink that is okay, but you can’t give everyone what they want because it just not possible, especially when you are on a tight budget. If you have a sulky child or a moany person then just let them get on with it.
  • Do your best and be there to greet your guests, and give instructions when they arrive of what to do, where to go and what will be happening. This helps you and them, so there are less surprises than need be.
  • If you do have items not used such as food, then why not give it to guests to take home and like we did this evening used some of the leftovers for our dinner in the evening. THE MORE YOU SAVE THE LESS YOU WASTE!

So I really hope if you have a birthday party coming up that you find this information helpful and if you need to take a few moments to have a breather and just adjust yourself, have a glass of wine to relax then take it, because lets face it, children can be challenging and managing 30 of them can make you just what go “NNOOO”. Anyway time for me to chill out and have some time to rest and recuperate as its another birthday party tomorrow, but thankfully not my child again. It’s nice when it is someone else’s turn.

If you have any good tips of arranging a kids birthday party then I would love to hear from you. You can leave a comment below.

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Handling half term blues/time for spooks today

For some schools it was half term in the UK last week, but this week my son has been on half term, and it’s not quite gone to plan. Monday I took Henry to a park in Putney near the river thames, and because I forgot his ball which I remembered once we got there he was completely miserable for most of the day.

I tried to explain that I had forgotten it but there are swings in the park and we can sit by the river to watch some boats, seagulls, planes fly over, trains, buses and may see a few helicopters, which my son is obsessed with at the moment, however he was still fixated about his ball.

He did cheer up in the end once he had a complete meltdown, and I felt like a complete failure. I did think about his ball, but in the end because I wanted to get there early so not to be back home too late, didn’t think about the ball until we got the park.

Kids can get obsessed with items its part of how they built their likes and dislikes, and so the next day I did bring his ball, as we went to Wimbledon Park and he was my friend again.

To handle half time blues:

  • I have got down to his level and talked it through with him and got him to focus on the other things he loved and in the end on Monday, we did have a good time sitting by the river watching the world go by. If you do feel yourself wanting to scream, what I did is let it out quietly so I did weep a little, whilst trying not to see my son see my cry and then brushed myself off and concentrated on the time we had together.
  • Count 5, 4, 3, 2, 1 which is the Mel Robbins technique, which I share a lot about on my other blog site Everyone Can Built A Castle, or count to 10 in your head if this counts
  • If you are with someone else, take a few seconds out. Putting children in timeout hasn’t always work but getting yourself out of the situation for a few seconds can help wonders

On Tuesday after we had been to Wimbledon Park, I surprised him by meeting Nanny (my mum) for lunch up London. Result! Not gloating, but that’s how you feel when things do go to plan. He did still kick off a little because the one thing Henry struggles with but can do with persistence, is waiting, but once he saw nanny he was all smiles again.

If your son has ADHD and struggles to wait try:

  • Getting them to focus on something. Reading the book The Baby Whisper, hits the nail on the hand with this one, and is useful because it can work, depending on the child. What I did was say to Henry “See if you can spot someone we know” and he did.
  • If you are waiting for a train or bus, get them to see how many different numbers they can guess of the buses, which was one thing we did on Monday, which worked, and this helps them wait for when its time to get on their bus or train.

The one thing they said at school is that he won’t sit down for very long, but on Monday, Tuesday and Wednesday, he has. It is often is dependent on what it is, because he sat there lovely yesterday especially watching the birds and the ducks, so if there is something that gets their concentration, then use it.

Yesterday we were out for most of the day. I took him to Battersea Park, where there is a pond, an area to play football which we did and played the crossbar challenge, sat and had our sandwiches that I took with us, and some snacks and then watched the birds by the pond and then walked along the river up to Fulham Broadway. We did have to stop a few times as children do get tired quite quickly but we still did it, and Henry loved walking along the river, going over the bridge and then he got to go passed Chelsea Football club, which I wanted him to see. I wanted to show him a big football stadium, I would love to take him to a match at Stamford Bridge, but just walking passed seeing his face light up I could still he got something out of it.

Henry still had a few meltdowns throughout the day yesterday, because he finds it hard to change from doing one thing to another, but once I showed him that we are going there and perhaps I should print off pictures and map to show him next time to see if this will help, he was fine and as said in the end stopped getting frustrated which is a lot to do with it and didn’t want to go home.

Today he had a bit of meltdown too because we are stopping in for part of the day, but I have an eye screening appointment at my local hospital and then later (my husband and I) are going to take him over to Wimbledon to get his feet measured in Clarks, a great place to get kids shoes, to possibly get Henry some new trainers.

Quick tip# If children start to trip over a lot with their shoes, it is a possible sign that their shoes need changing and their feet are starting to grow out of them.

In any case he really did kick off and I felt myself heat up, so sat down in the Living room and then took a deep breath went back to him and calmly explain things to him trying to use simple words and to see that today we have to do other things but tomorrow we can do a park and walk by the river again.

He did calm down. I am finding talking it out with my son to be a lot more effective then raging which can be tempting, but I can see that this has no effect but can cause an even more a meltdown.

As it is Halloween, time for spooks today we have decorate our home for Henry and my husband too, we won’t be trickle treating but still going to have a bit of fun, going to see if I can make our dinner, burgers, Salad and chips, into something scary.

Even if your children aren’t trickle treating then it can still be a great day to dress up and have some spooking fun.

HAPPY HALLOWEEN EVERYONE!

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Celebrating birthdays

Henrys birthday card to me

Celebrating birthdays to me is very important as a parent and for your children, as it is marking their birth and how old they are, and the same goes when celebrating family and friends birthdays.

Today it is my birthday and my husband got a card from Henry, and even got Henry to wish me a happy birthday. I will do the same for my husband on his birthday. When it comes to our birthday’s we always make sure Henry (our son) is involved as much as possible.

You don’t have to go over the top just teaching them to acknowledge it really helps them become aware of special dates and to help see that birthdays are fun, and great way to socialise with people and as my son loves cake, he gets to eat some.

Why not have your child make a card for somebody, I like making cards and have often got out my craft items out to get Henry into making cards. He hasn’t really gotten the concept yet, but it is great way for them to be included and making a card can really help add to that personal touch.

This year for Henry’s birthday we are doing a Gym thing, and have invited his school friends, and Henry has been invited to other birthday parties too. It really helps with interaction and helps them get to know their friends even more.

Get your child involved in buying a present, and have them choose items. Again this helps with their decision making or have them make a present.

Here is a video of 22 Easy DIY Gifts Your Parents will adore:

Here are some other great gifts you can make with your kids aswell. See link below:

https://www.activityvillage.co.uk/gifts-kids-can-make

The tradition when we have a family birthday is for the child mainly to open up some of their presents with the people they are spending their birthday with, whether it be a family gathering or a party, and it is a great way for the children to be happy to see the child who’s birthday it is see their presents they bought for them, and for the birthday boy or girl to say thank you to the children who have bought them presents.

When it comes to making the cake again why not get your children involved, not just licking the spoon once the cake is in the oven. Get them to help with the decorating, and have some fun.

So to all the parents, grandparents, Aunties and Uncles and children who are celebrating their birthday too, I wish you have Very Happy Birthday, and Bestwishes.

Please see my previous blog I wrote on this site called Teaching kids about the weather and different seasons

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Teaching kids about the weather and the different seasons

Teaching our kids about the weather and the different seasons is pretty fun, and I try and do this most days to help Henry get to know the different changes to the weather, so he knows when it is raining or becomes a little chilly that we must wear a jumper and a coat to protect ourselves from getting wet and cold, and when it sunny to put on sun cream and no need for a coat or jumper.

To help my son I created from looking on Google Images, a weather chart and a seasonal chart, and I have even as requested by his school as part of his homework, bought Henry a Diary, to use this a Weather Diary.

The next chart I am going to make is about a chart about the yearly holidays to help him get to know these too.

Please visit my Printables page on Carriesrealworld site, if you would like to download the charts I have made, which are free to print off. You will need Microsoft Publisher to do this.

Henry Weather chart

Here is Henry’s weather chart above, which is pretty easy to make, I just used plain white card or you can use paper, got the images from clipart and google images, created the charts on Microsoft Publisher I have version 2017, Eliminated the paper using my laminator and laminator Paper, Velcro stickers, purchased from Rymans. You can get a box of Velcro stickers for about £4.99, and some scissors to cut out the images.

I also created Henry a Seasonal chart to help him identify that this season is Autumn, next its Winter, then spring and then summer again.

Henry’s Seasonal Chart

I think it important for our kids to know about the seasons, so again they learn what to wear during the colder seasons and what to wear and put on when it is warmer.

As part of Henry’s homework, we are gonna take Henry out to the Common to pick up concores, pine cones and leaves, to help see the different colours of the leaves as it gets colder, the different birds that come out and objects that are created during the different seasons.

Learning should be made fun, as it helps stop you from getting frustrated and from your children from becoming bored as learning from experience, some children’s attention span isn’t always that long, and so making it as interesting and fun as possible is the key.

Henry’s weather Diary

So lets get our kids learning and help build up their knowledge and experiences.

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Carrie X

What to do with your kids during the Easter Holidays

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What should you do during the Easter holidays?

Well why not create an Easter egg hunt, just get a load of chocolate foiled eggs, which you can get from your local supermarket and hide them in the house or garden and create clues as to where the eggs could be, and you can get the whole family involved.

Or you can visit some places in your area for local Easter egg hunts near you. Check this website link below for details:

https://www.dayoutwiththekids.co.uk/blog/easter-egg-hunts-near-you

Why not take a trip up to London, last year we visited the London Aquarium, the London Dungeon, Shreks Adventure or go on the London Eye. They are really great activities but do book in advance as they do get fully booked during these holidays.

You have Dungeons in other areas like Blackpool and Edinburgh. There also other Sealife centres aswell, in Manchester, Weymouth, Brighton, Blackpool, Gweek and Lock Lomond.

Remember in Blackpool you can visit the Blackpool Tower where they have the circus and usually they will do an Easter show, and Weymouth Tower (Jurassic Skyline).

If the weather is sunny and warm, why not take a trip along the River Thames and visit some of the top UK attractions like Hampton court, or central London, take a river boat cruise up to Tower Bridge and back.

Why not go to a Theme Park and book a break away, they are doing deals at Chessington World of Adventures at the moment, where kids go free, check out the link below for details:


Legoland Windsor is my favourite out of all the theme parks and they’re doing an offer too during the Easter Holidays if you wanted to book a break away. Check out link below:


If you are on a limited budget then fear not, there are still places to go for free, like the Museums in Kensington in London, like the Science Museum, the V&A and Natural History museum. Or take them to the Transport Museum up near Covent Garden.

Take them to see Buckingham Palace and have picnic in St Jame’s park, Green Park or Hyde Park and check out Kensington Gardens, where you can see the luxurious Kensington Palace, where Prince William and Kate live.

There are many activities to do at home too, like take them to a local park and create an Easter Egg hunt there and make a party of it, and invite your children friends to come and join in.

Create some activities at home, like get them to paint some eggs in different colours using children’s paint, and why not use some child friendly glue and get them to create some Easter cards, and pictures.

Here is a video by Emily Norris who share’s some activities to do on a rainy day.

Never fear there is always plenty to do, so why not try these out and just have fun, and remember if you liked my blog then please subscribe and follow me on WordPress.con

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Teaching children about love

As it is valentines day tomorrow I wanted to write about teaching children about Love.

I think you can do it by the simple things like giving your child a cuddle and a kiss, letting them have the things they love but in moderation of course.

I want my son to be respectful to others and be kind, and he is already started to do that. Apparently there is a little who he goes to school with, who cries all the time when she has to go to school, and our son gives her a hug all the time.

The one thing my son is, is very affectionate which I think it is a lovely trait to have.

I don’t think showing you love someone should happen just on valentines day, but through out your life with that person, even if it is giving them a hung, cooking them dinner, buying a gift, just showing that you care is a good way to teach love to our children, and it should be embraced.

I know there are people who don’t agree with kissing your children, and that is up to them, but I don’t see what is wrong with it, as long you don’t have a cold sore or are sick, then giving a kis is a nice to way to show love.

Same with a hug. I love having cuddles with my son, whilst watching TV or a film, it’s what helps us to bond as mother and son, and that to me is important.

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Carrie X

Teaching my son about the new year

Teaching children about the new year I think is important, so they become aware of the changes the new year brings, example they know that in the new year they go back to school.

They may not understand about the new year but I think it is important to make them aware of what the new year means.

I want my son to get to know that we celebrate the new year, by taking him out, allow him if he wants to, to stay up late to see the fireworks up close or on the TV.

Let him see that we kiss when the clock strikes 12 and that we sing afterwards. If he decides later in life not to celebrate the new year then that is fine, it is up to him, but it good for him to see that the new years is a good thing not something bad.

So lets raise our glasses and I wish you all a happy new year. See you in 2019.

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Carrie X

Teacher’s Gifts

I feel like a scrooge today because I saw parents today giving gifts to the teachers and I didn’t. I gave a Christmas card and contribute £5 to a group gift from the parents, but feel kind of stingy.

Should I buy his teacher a gift or teachers?

I thought you gave gifts at the end of the school year, or am I being totally naive?

The school has done a great job with Henry but is looked after by another teacher, so I would need to buy 5 different gifts.

I am all new to the school thing and just getting my son too school is always a mission.

I just found an article on the Metro talking about this various subject. See link below:

So what do you do, do you buy your child’s teacher a gift?

Am I being stingy about not giving an extra gift even though I did contribute £5 to a group gift?

I would love to hear your thoughts.

Many thanks for reading,

Carrie X

Gift Ideas For Kids

Are you having trouble finding gifts for the children in your life?

Do they more less have everything?

Finding gifts for kids each Christmas can be tough especially if they have brothers and sisters who pass on their toys to their siblings. I remember as a kid I got a lot of gifts sets which I still love till this day, or it was cassette tape, a record or as got older a CD.

Check with their parents if the children have written a list and see if you can get something on the parents list, to save them getting it.

I have gone for journals this year for presents, clothes and story books, as you can’t go wrong with a book or a little journal notebook, especially if the children are into writing.

My son for his birthday received a dustcart toy, which when you press the button on top it moves forwards and back, and tips the bin up like a real dustcart and my son loves it. He also have a fire engine toy which he loves to play with too. 

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Choose a puzzle or a game that the family can play is always good and gets everyone together on Christmas day, and breaks the ice. As a kid growing up it was a tradition to play card games or a board game, it kind of breaks up the day.

The games my son loves to play with his Mr Men cards and playing matching  pairs, and helps them with their memory and observation skills.


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Knowing what to buy each year can change as they begin to grow and get into new things each year. 

If you stuck on toys to buy why not buy an experience, like one year I bought my nieces an experience at Chessington World of Adventures, and they got to feed the giraffes there. 

I found this Video from YouTube which shows you the experience. 

https://www.chessington.com/explore/chessington-vip-adventures.aspx

So I hope this is helpful to you and will give you those last minute ideas. 

Many thanks for reading, 

Carrie X 

Letting kids know about holidays

To me the holiday season has never been more important to me than since my son was born. Teaching him about the different seasons is such a huge part of their childhood that as much as I can be a humbug and for while lost my spark for Christmas it was important to me to get it back for my son to learn and to celebrate the festive season too.

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I will be encouraging my son to help decorate this year and have him open up his presents in the morning whilst having his breakfast.

I am going to buy a gift from him for his daddy and for his grandparents, so he sees it is about giving gifts aswell as receiving them, and teaching him what Christmas is truly about, the birth of Jesus Christ. He may decide when he is older not to believe in the birth of Jesus, but I think as a parent it is good to give them the choice so they can decide for themselves on what they want to believe in.

I will be reading him stories about Christmas which I have done since he was a baby.

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When it comes to Christmas it for me is about sharing some time with family weather it is just us three (me, my son and husband) or spending time with grandparents and cousins, etc

Having a good meal, pulling crackers, playing games, or watching a good old Christmas film, that for me is Christmas.

So lets get ready for the Christmas season and let our kids enjoy it much as possible as they only get one childhood, so it worth making the most of every minute and every season ahead.

Many thanks for reading,

Carrie X