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Back at School after the Lockdown

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Today Henry went back to school, the first time since lockdown and I am kind of relieved that some normality has begun.

Getting kids ready for school is no easy task especially when their first initial answer is NO, so with Henry we do try bribery.

Now I know some people may frown upon that, but do I care, No I don’t.

At the end of the day you do what you gotta do, and when a kid is screaming blue murder you know there is no further option.

Henry got a little stressed because we didn’t cut through the large playground like we normally do, and all the classes are mixed at the moment, and so we have to follow the rules like everyone else, and so I just calmed him down as much as possible and passed him over to the teacher, praying that I don’t get a call later to pick him up because he has had a difficult day.

Children with ADHD like my son has, they can find change difficult so we did what we always do, and when I say we, me and my mother, showed him images of where he will need to go and what his classroom is like, as getting them prepared as much as possible does really help.

Also letting him choose an activity he can do in the car beforehand is a good distraction away from the new transition.

I would recommend planning the night before and saving yourself time is the key to a successful school run. I hate panicking and getting into a friendsey when if it had been done the night before like have all  their uniform ready and ready to grab, have his book bag filled with his school books and snack for the day and even getting out his shoes, are great time savers.

It really does and I even got up extra early today to give myself time to get ready. This meant having little sleep, but now after feeling like zombie fill right and rain.

So keep safe everyone and many thanks for reading,

 

Carrie X

 

 

 

Handling a breakup

Parents Fighting Clipart

Since becoming a mum back in 2013 my marriage has had its ups and downs and friction was caused between us especially when I had postnatal depression. My son was having difficulty on some days in not keeping his milk down, and it would be like an explosion of milk.

I have since met somebody new, not going to say who it is but I am very much in love.

We (the father of my son and I) back then were often at leggier heads and for the most important thing is to try and keep the piece as much as possible. I do have anger about why and how it has ended, but it has and I feel that for me personally I have to try and bite my lip and move on.

To me it is so important to try and be civil with each other and not use children as a weapon and a way of scoring points against on another.

Try to explain to them not just by the off chance it gets mentioned, but sit down with them and explain, that mum and dad are no longer husband and wife but we love you still so much and we’ll both be here for you should you need it.

A marriage that breaks up is hard especially for children and they may start to be a little clingy than normal, so suffering with separation anxiety, they can start to feel that they are to blame, which of course they are not.

They can start to play up a lot more, so wanting more attention.  They can become super hyperactive so have a lot more tantrums. They are scared even frightened because their world has fallen apart and they can feel they have no control.

If there are disputes then the best thing is to do it outside the home away from the kids because they will pick up on tension and that it is unhappy place and can feel very vulnerable.

No marriage ending can be easy but you can pull through and still end things amicably.

So if you to have had such experience aswell please share I would like to know.

Many thanks for reading,

 

Carrie X

 

 

 

Blogmas for kids and parents

Hi all I hope Saturday is going well for you so far. This year I am doing Blogmas, so as of tomorrow I will be posting a blog everyday on either of my various sites, including this one up until Christmas day (25th Dec).

Here are the links to my other sites:

https://www.carriesrealworld.com/

https://everyonecanbuildacastle.com/

https://everydaylivingandlifestyle.wordpress.com/

https://theparentingadventuresthebirthofmyson.wordpress.com

https://sportsandfitnesspassion.wordpress.com/

It is going to be tough but I really wanted to do this as I still got so many things I would like to share before Christmas and before the end of the year.

If there is a topic you would like me to post or there is a favourite topic I have already shared but you would like me to post more of then please let me know. Any suggestions can be left in the comments section below.

You can keep up to date on all my blogs by following me on WordPress.com.

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Twitter

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Have a great rest of the day and many thanks for reading,

 

Carrie X

Celebrating birthdays

Henrys birthday card to me

Celebrating birthdays to me is very important as a parent and for your children, as it is marking their birth and how old they are, and the same goes when celebrating family and friends birthdays.

Today it is my birthday and my husband got a card from Henry, and even got Henry to wish me a happy birthday. I will do the same for my husband on his birthday. When it comes to our birthday’s we always make sure Henry (our son) is involved as much as possible.

You don’t have to go over the top just teaching them to acknowledge it really helps them become aware of special dates and to help see that birthdays are fun, and great way to socialise with people and as my son loves cake, he gets to eat some.

Why not have your child make a card for somebody, I like making cards and have often got out my craft items out to get Henry into making cards. He hasn’t really gotten the concept yet, but it is great way for them to be included and making a card can really help add to that personal touch.

This year for Henry’s birthday we are doing a Gym thing, and have invited his school friends, and Henry has been invited to other birthday parties too. It really helps with interaction and helps them get to know their friends even more.

Get your child involved in buying a present, and have them choose items. Again this helps with their decision making or have them make a present.

Here is a video of 22 Easy DIY Gifts Your Parents will adore:

Here are some other great gifts you can make with your kids aswell. See link below:

https://www.activityvillage.co.uk/gifts-kids-can-make

The tradition when we have a family birthday is for the child mainly to open up some of their presents with the people they are spending their birthday with, whether it be a family gathering or a party, and it is a great way for the children to be happy to see the child who’s birthday it is see their presents they bought for them, and for the birthday boy or girl to say thank you to the children who have bought them presents.

When it comes to making the cake again why not get your children involved, not just licking the spoon once the cake is in the oven. Get them to help with the decorating, and have some fun.

So to all the parents, grandparents, Aunties and Uncles and children who are celebrating their birthday too, I wish you have Very Happy Birthday, and Bestwishes.

Please see my previous blog I wrote on this site called Teaching kids about the weather and different seasons

You can keep up to date with my blogs on this site by following me on WordPress.com, please click below. I would love to hear how you have been celebrating your birthdays and theirs? What gifts have you made? Do you have any birthday celebrating ideas?

Please leave a comment below. I share this blog with my other site:

https://theparentingadventures.wordpress.com/

I have written a new post on this site about Henry is now in year one

You can see my other blogs I write on my website:

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Please check out my other WordPress sites too (below):

https://everydaylivingandlifestyle.wordpress.com/

https://everyonecanbuildacastle.com/

https://sportsandfitnesspassion.wordpress.com/

I wish you a very happy weekend. 

Many thanks for reading, 

 

Carrie X

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Learning through play

Learning through play is so important, because that’s how they build up their listening, observation skills, memory and motor skills.

Henry learns through play at school and it has benefited him so much he is speaking a lot more, picking up new words and skills such as he couldn’t open any packaging now he can and its through play he has done that.

Here is a video which talks more about learning through play.

There are so many skills you can teach a child through play, such as cleaning, dancing and walking.

At Henry’s school they use visual cards to let Henry know what other items he can play with next, or what the next activity is going to be.

During half term you can still learn through play by taking them to softplay, bowling, to zoo where there is also a playground, to some gardens like Kew Gardens for example and have a great day out.

Many thanks for reading,

Carrie X

Getting Children to go to school

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Getting a child to school can be tricky, getting my son ready for school can take its time as my son, if he could walk out the house naked or in his Pajamas he would.

I do things gradually so we gradually have Henry eat his breakfast and then at 8 minutes passed seven each morning that’s when we get Henry dressed ready for school. We have started to get him to do it himself, so putting on his pants, trousers and shirt.

I will admit some mornings I do have to wrestle with him to get him dressed. So not always easy.

Once my son is dressed I then I find everything else just fits into place. Getting into a routine is helpful, for both you as the parent and for the child so they know at this time of the day, this when we get dressed, put our shoes on, brush our teeth and one last trip to the toilet, as my fear is getting caught short, and Henry needing a toilet stop on the way to school.

Once we are out of the house it takes a long time to get to school, because my son wants to look and watch everything going passed, the birds, the buses, the squirrels, cars and other children going to school, so I make sure I leave with plenty of time.

The worst thing I hate the most is rushing, and if I can avoid it I will do.

If they do have a melt down on the way then stop, get down to their level and explain that it is OK, and try and take their mind off of it, by looking at the nature or things around them.

Keep letting them know how far away they are and that they doing really well in walking, and don’t worry if they have a meltdown as these will pass.

Children are just like us we get anxious over new experiences and changes, and children aren’t any different. As they start feeling their emotions they become more aware of what is happening around them.

I get anxious but I try to hide it, as I don’t want my fears to effect Henry in anyway and be afraid to go to school.

Many thanks for reading,

Carrie X

My Son was reported for swearing at school

Yes it is true, and I do feel mortified that my son swore apparently during assembly, in front of the whole school. 

How do you stop your child from swearing?

This is a tough question, because my son being 5 years old now still doesn’t get that those words mean. He says them in the right context though, so we teach him to replace the words, with shoot or instead of Bloody, “oh my goodness”.

He began swearing back when he was at nursery and he had nipped it in the bud, but it seemed he had started again.

Both my husband and I are aware we have to watch our own language in case our son repeats them. 

A lot of it, is to do with attention and seeing what reaction he is going to get, so I try to ignore or replace the words so he knows what words are OK and which aren’t.  

Band the F word 

I have now band the F word from my lips, and have tried to get my husband to do the same, even though it still comes out whilst my husband is driving so I do have to keep reminding him that the F word shouldn’t be used, or I say “Stop swearing”.

It can be tricky but try not to bring too much attention to it, as if they see they get a reaction they will continue, well my son does, so we have to try and make him see that this word is fine, but we don’t say that word, as its a bad word. 

There hasn’t been any more reports of him swearing which I am relieved for, I hope I am not tempting fate, but so far he has stopped. 

Here is a video by Pappa Stig of how he stopped his son from swearing. 

So if you have any dilemmas such as your child swearing get in touch. I feel as a fellow parent we should support each other the best we can. 

Many thanks for reading,

Carrie X

Copying with fireworks nights

It is that time of year when in the evenings, certainly where I live you can hear fireworks going off most evenings during fireworks night.

We even took our son to see some fireworks at my Step Dads school. I thought he would like them but he didn’t and soon went back indoors with my mum.

They can make young children jump and my niece had to back indoors too as she really got upset. Some children don’t like fireworks, not saying that fireworks night should stop, just think about and be prepared for when they don’t like them.

As a young child I didn’t like big bangs and would often cry because of how much they made me jump. Children can become used to fireworks, over time but can be a shock to them at first.

Don’t put them too near, we made that mistake. He wasn’t so so close that he could touch them in anyway as they had fences blocking the way to the fireworks, but try not to get them too close, the further away the less of the shock it can be.

If they become hysterical take them away until they have calmed down.

Be careful of sparklers, many a kid I remember as a child seeing adverts about kids touching sparklers and burning their hands, try and use glow sticks as a alternative instead or use glow up toys.

So if you are going to fireworks evening keep safe and never beat yourself up over it because they didn’t like it.

Never show them your fear the best you can, as this can rub off on them. Try and make them excited about fireworks, but keeping their safety in mind aswell.

If there is a bonfire, keep at a good distance so they can still see it, but they don’t get too hot.

Bring refreshments for the evening if there aren’t any there or give them their dinner beforehand if possible.

Wrap them up as it can be quite cold in the evenings. With Henry I put on two layers, a long sleeved t-shirt, jeans and a padded jacket, with some comfy shoes and woolly socks on.

So where are you going to fireworks or have you already been and you have some tips and advice to share I would love to hear from you.

Many thanks for reading,

 

Carrie X

 

Finding a good school

As we are now coming into November, this is the time you should be looking at visiting schools and applying for your school of choice, before January 2019 for your child depending on their birth date.

This was my husband and I last year, and thankfully we go out second choice.

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You want to visit during school hours if possible as you can see by the children’s expression and body language if they enjoy their school or not and can usually pick up a good or bad vibe.

You wanna go by the way the school has presented itself and what their Ofsted report is like. Luckily both of the schools we wanted for our son were both Outstanding, which I appreciate not everyone is that lucky, but nevertheless it is good to check out the Ofsted report, and if the school will get the best out of your child.

I know in the UK it all comes down to distance and if you live in the catchment area, but like my nieces they go to go a school further from their home because ones in their area to where they lived were really bad, and didn’t have good reputation at all.

Consider whether or not they Will be able to give your child the care and attention they need. I knew for Henry our son, he would need one to one support as he has slight development delay, and so it was important that the school could provide that for us.

How will they introduce your child to school? Do they do home visits? Going to school for any child can be daunting so you want to lower the stress of school as much as possible and have them look forward to it, rather than dreading it.

To find the schools in your area check out your local authority and how you can apply and what date you need to apply by.

Many thanks for reading,

 

Carrie X

What’s in my Baby Changing Bag/ You don’t need to use a fancy changing bag

Hi there, thank you for viewing my blog, here I share my experience of being parent for the first time, and I have written two books related to The Parenting Adventures aswell.

The Parenting Adventures Pregnancy to the first nine months and The Parenting Adventure, Baby to Toddler years. Available from Amazon in paperback and kindle.

In this blog I am adding my new video, which is showing what I carry in my baby changing bag. You can watch below:

Please comment below of what other topics or experience I have that you wish for me to share being a first time mum.

Parenting isn’t easy, but you learn as your child develops  learns. There is no one way to parent, but be true yourself and what will benefit you and your child.

Many thanks for reading,

 

Carrie X