Category Archives: Parenting Dilemmas

Kids Hacks

Check out this video below by Kate Murnane, of some great kids hacks to keep them happy.

If you too have any hacks you would like to share then why not get in contact with me and I will be happy to read them and if you wish for me to share on my website then I will do.

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Many thanks for reading,

Carrie X

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Bedtime tantrums

If you child refuses to go to bed then there are many things you can do to help stop the tantrums by following some key steps.

First one: Always give them small hints that bedtime is on its way, and this can be as simple as drawing the curtains, or dimming the lights, playing soft music or have them listen to a story.

Second tip: Change their clothes to bedtime clothes and sing a song about bedtime to get them to look forward to it, rather than dread it.

Third tip: If they still having naps during the day then make sure it is no longer than 3pm, as this can cause disruption when it comes to sleep time, depending on how many naps they have, but use 3pm as the cut off time, so if they are napping they need to wake up by this time.

fourth time: Have bath time. This will help wind down their body and get them sleepy.

Check out this article on the Babycenter website, which gives further details:

https://www.babycentre.co.uk/a558218/bedtime-routines-for-toddlers

Bedtimes are usually easy in our house, as Henry will usually get tired around 6pm to 7pm so around 5pm after dinner time, we will have quiet time, so no ball or football, and so it is either he can watch his tablet for half hour or listen to a story.

This tends to work. When he was a lot smaller we would give him some warm milk and play some soft lullaby music to indicate bedtime was on its way. You can buy blackout curtains, but our son liked sleeping with the light slightly on.

Here is another article I found on Very Well family:

https://www.verywellfamily.com/bedtime-hacks-for-perschoolers-4067065

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Many thanks for reading,

Carrie X

Learning through play

Learning through play is so important, because that’s how they build up their listening, observation skills, memory and motor skills.

Henry learns through play at school and it has benefited him so much he is speaking a lot more, picking up new words and skills such as he couldn’t open any packaging now he can and its through play he has done that.

Here is a video which talks more about learning through play.

There are so many skills you can teach a child through play, such as cleaning, dancing and walking.

At Henry’s school they use visual cards to let Henry know what other items he can play with next, or what the next activity is going to be.

During half term you can still learn through play by taking them to softplay, bowling, to zoo where there is also a playground, to some gardens like Kew Gardens for example and have a great day out.

Many thanks for reading,

Carrie X

Building children’s confidence with water

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Image from: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fApPZBFuU3A

Bath times in our house are tricky, because our son doesn’t like it, I don’t know why he doesn’t I make it as relaxing as possible and he goes in okay, but soon as he goes in he wants to come out.

He doesn’t like getting his hair wet and really puts up a fight to get out of the bath when it comes to washing his hair.

Building a child’s confidence with water is an essential part of their growing and I am going to in the summer take him swimming again, as last time we did it really helped build his confidence.

One tip I would give is to get into the bath aswell. If you can get into the bath with them so they can see that you are seating down and it is okay, and usually children will follow by example, once they know it is okay.

Once I have finished washing my sons hair I say “All over” and then he is fine and I take him out of the bath.

Sometimes I will encourage him as much as possible to play in the bath with his boat and there was a point he would, but he has become weary of sitting in the bath again.

He will stand in the bath, so we have put in a bath mat to stop him from slipping, which isn’t a problem I just wish he would be a lot more confident.

It is always me he trusts to give him a bath, he doesn’t like it when my husband gives him a bath, which I again not sure why, as at one point they were really bonding through bath time. It was kind of their time together.

So it a working progress, but like everything else, doing it gradual and being persistent is the key to helping them to build their confidence. Not allowing them near water at all won’t help, as they need to see there is nothing to be scared about.

Many thanks for reading,

Carrie X

How do you teach a kid to ride a bike?

For Christmas Henry (my son) was given a bike. No I am not boasting in anyway or sponsored by the company it was purchased from, it is just I thought I would share my tips and tricks on how to teach a child to ride a bike.

My Son Practicing on his new bike

First of all, they need to get their motor skills working, so learning to walk and run, is the start.

You can get little bikes which have peddles on them to begin with and help place their legs onto the peddles and push their legs round forwards to see that this how you drive the bike along.

#Importanttip Always make sure if it is a bigger bike even with stabilizers, that they wear a helmet. The earlier you teach them to wear protective gear when riding a bike the more they will stick to wearing their protective equipment.

The amount of times I see adults riding bikes with no protection at all and they are on the roads, is astonishing and crazy in my opinion. Why wouldn’t you wear a helmet to protect your head, when lets face it is a dangerous place to hit should you collide with another vehicle.

#Tip2 Take them to safe place to practice riding their bike, like to a park or a playground, so they can get used to it. Allow them space to learn on their own once they have picked up the basics then they can start riding more and their confidence with the bike grows.

Children learn as they grow and taking gradual steps is the best way to help with their development and learning.

#Tip3 I wouldn’t allow them to be near roads until they have safely picked up and are fully confident on their bikes. In the meantime, you can still teach them as they are learning to ride their bike about road safety and what to do when they reach a road, to look left and right, and only cross when all other vehicles have stopped or the road is clear.

#Tip4 Always make sure that they know not to ride off too far. I often see parents allow their children even on scooters to shoot off, but they need to learn not to go too far and if they do come across the road to stop at all times.

I hope you find this helpful, learning to ride a bike is fun and allow them to enjoy the experience as much as possible but always put safety at the top of the list especially when it comes to roads.

I have come across a video that will help you to teach your child to ride a bike aswell.

Many thanks for reading.

Carrie X

Stressful Parenting

I wrote a blog on my site called Everyone can build a castle on wordpress.com about Dealing with Stress 

I talk about how I get so stressed out when it comes to taking my son to school, and I have even written a post called Getting children to school where I talk about getting a child to school and doing it gradually.

If you suffer with anxiety like I do, doing things gradually rather than all in one go, really helps lower the pressure and helps me get through the morning.

Once my son is in school I breath a sigh of relief and get on with my day.

Why as parents do we get so stressed?

I wish I knew the answer but I think it is the overwhelming pressure in my case of getting my son to school safely as there are some big roads in between.

I picture the worse case scenario to help make myself aware of the dangers that can happen. It makes me take extra care not to let Henry cross the road without checking whats coming first, so he will eventually learn to do the same.

My husband says I panic over the slightest thing, but I am worrier, and I can’t help but worry, it is part of my DNA I have come to realise.

Does it make me being a worrier effect me as a parent?

I think so but I’d rather be aware of the dangers rather than not, and I know that the stress isn’t gonna last for long, it is only for 20 minutes or so.

The same goes when it comes to toilet training, has Henry had an accident at school or not, so far he has been accident free, and getting to bed especially during the night can be stressful aswell, but again I just tell myself eventually he will go back to sleep, and everything will be alright.

Many thanks for reading,

Carrie X

Getting Children to go to school

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Getting a child to school can be tricky, getting my son ready for school can take its time as my son, if he could walk out the house naked or in his Pajamas he would.

I do things gradually so we gradually have Henry eat his breakfast and then at 8 minutes passed seven each morning that’s when we get Henry dressed ready for school. We have started to get him to do it himself, so putting on his pants, trousers and shirt.

I will admit some mornings I do have to wrestle with him to get him dressed. So not always easy.

Once my son is dressed I then I find everything else just fits into place. Getting into a routine is helpful, for both you as the parent and for the child so they know at this time of the day, this when we get dressed, put our shoes on, brush our teeth and one last trip to the toilet, as my fear is getting caught short, and Henry needing a toilet stop on the way to school.

Once we are out of the house it takes a long time to get to school, because my son wants to look and watch everything going passed, the birds, the buses, the squirrels, cars and other children going to school, so I make sure I leave with plenty of time.

The worst thing I hate the most is rushing, and if I can avoid it I will do.

If they do have a melt down on the way then stop, get down to their level and explain that it is OK, and try and take their mind off of it, by looking at the nature or things around them.

Keep letting them know how far away they are and that they doing really well in walking, and don’t worry if they have a meltdown as these will pass.

Children are just like us we get anxious over new experiences and changes, and children aren’t any different. As they start feeling their emotions they become more aware of what is happening around them.

I get anxious but I try to hide it, as I don’t want my fears to effect Henry in anyway and be afraid to go to school.

Many thanks for reading,

Carrie X

Teacher’s Gifts

I feel like a scrooge today because I saw parents today giving gifts to the teachers and I didn’t. I gave a Christmas card and contribute £5 to a group gift from the parents, but feel kind of stingy.

Should I buy his teacher a gift or teachers?

I thought you gave gifts at the end of the school year, or am I being totally naive?

The school has done a great job with Henry but is looked after by another teacher, so I would need to buy 5 different gifts.

I am all new to the school thing and just getting my son too school is always a mission.

I just found an article on the Metro talking about this various subject. See link below:

So what do you do, do you buy your child’s teacher a gift?

Am I being stingy about not giving an extra gift even though I did contribute £5 to a group gift?

I would love to hear your thoughts.

Many thanks for reading,

Carrie X

Dealing with Bumps and Scrapes

As a child I was always coming home with a plaster on my leg, cut my head open whilst playing with my brother who when playing football disclicated his arm, it happens accidents do happen and this week I got a phone call from my son’s school because he had split his head open.

It so happened I was on a course for the whole day, but my husband was off so I had to give him a call to go to the school, but to keep me posted to let me know how he was.

If they do come home with a cut leg, clean it up with a sterile wipe and cover with a plaster, if it is a broken arm, leg, cut on he head seek medical advice, as with head injuries could lead to other problems, such a dizziness and sickness.

Never leave them standing up, they should be seated or lying down. If unconcious, lay them into the recover position, don’t move then if unsure, and seek medical help straight away.

We were advised by the doctors to give Henry 24 hours before he returned to school and must not get his head wet, as the glue holding his cut together could come away and start bleeding again.

Try and stay as calm as possible even if the child is hysterical.  Get some support for yourself as it can be traumatic for everyone.

Make sure if it is done at nursery or at school an accident report is written and signed.

Many thanks for reading,

Carrie X

Avoiding coughs and colds

This time of year at least someone I know will get a sticking cold, and usually Henry my son will get a cold as soon as the weather begins to change. 

So how can you avoid those horrible coughs and cold?

Teach your child to put their hand in front of their mouth, and make sure you have plenty of tissues to hand. Teach them to wash their hands regularly and give them a nice warm bath.

Keep them wrapped up and use Calpol if your child is not allergic but if they have a temperature and always have a thermometer to hand, as we keep us near by in the kitchen at all times just in case. 

Sometimes a cold is unavoidable and having a cold will  help make their anti bodies stronger and their immune system, but at the same time you want to make sure it doesn’t get any worse, and if you are concerned then do book an appointment with the doctor or speak to your health adviser. 

Make sure the child is well hydrated and check their diet. I am guilty of giving my son sugary food and I know it is bad, so I do make sure now that when he goes to school he has a piece of fruit to take with him aswell as his cup with water in it. 

If they are really bad then do avoid then going to school especially if they have a temperature as coughs and colds are contagious. 

Many thanks for reading, 

Carrie X