When times are tough

Hello and welcome! This week my son had an annual review that he has each year at school and not going to say too much but that I found it tough and now unsettled as Henry changed schools this year and it looks like it was the school for him but others are not seeing that and looks like we may need to look for another school and it’s like where.

This blog is not going to give anyone a bad name by any means but that often when we think things are good it can go in the opposite direction and feels like “Who is going to help me here?”, and so how do you deal with the tough times.

I write a blog a while ago about when Sometimes I find it a struggle and for me that has happened. Please do not feel this is all doom and gloom as me and my son have fun times, its just when things are taken out of your hands, its like “Give me a break let things be good please”.

So one thing I would say is to find a way that you can spend time observing your children and what could make the biggest impact?

I don’t have the funds for private tutering so it is what the local authorities are going to give us in options. This means that he can become disorientated and unsettled again and he is starting to ask if he can go back to his previous school, but he can’t.

This morning he said he didn’t want to go to his new school as he did have peers at his first school, and it means him starting from scratch. How does this help?

I don’t mind him learning at home but we need the schools help with us and find what will suit him and part of his issue is not having any peers, but that happens when he can spend more time with the kids in his class which it looks like he doesn’t and goes into a different class, so it is tricky and I felt down yesterday as its feels that we are left in limbo.

So now I am going to do steps to help his learning at home and gonna go through different techniques to help his learning.

It is tough knowing that his routine is gonna change too, and kids that have ADHD love routine, thankfully I have people around me to help but they aren’t gonna be around forever too so I feel frustrated that his learning is gonna be effected even more when it comes to going to school. Where is the right place?

I reflect on things and when times are tough another tip I want to give and used to think this was overthinking and analysing but no it isnt its preparation so when my son goes to another school I have someway helped adjust myself and hoping that my son will feel the same. If he sees I am stressed about it so will he be and so as a parent we often feel we need to hide our feelings. and this is tough.

I find this also effects my home situation as I am looking to work on many professions aswell keep working on blogs and videos and that is going to be tough because school finish at different times and start at different times to.

My next tip,

Keep communitcating with the school he is currently at see what we can all do together that will help him should my son move to schools and I do feel that a postive can come out of this, not sure what but it is there, and is giving me hope.

So, lets all work together and it is Christmas and going to do more festive blogs and so more to come.

Many thanks for reading,

Carrie X

Getting kids to talk about school

So it has been two weeks since Henry returned to school, but getting Henry to talk about school can be very hit and miss.

Here is what to do when getting kids to talk about school,

• Don’t bother wait until they tell you, as they usually decide to talk about school on their terms not on yours
• Never ask open questions as you can hit a brick wall
• The nearest I can get is from my son is what he had for his lunch which at the moment seems to be the same thing everyday
• They are too knackered to care about talking about school so wait until they have slept before asking
• Usually Henry is too hungry to care about school and gets hangry
• He wants to do face time during the only time I get to watch TV when he comes home from school
• They find playing with a balloon more interesting than anything to do with school
• Use bed time as an excuse to cause havoc

Henry will say things about school like a copy a prayer or song that they have been taught, or ask about a school friend.

If you can’t get much out of them about school don’t be disheartened but they will when they are ready to.

Many thanks for reading,

 

Carrie X