childrens independence | The parenting adventures

So this evening after my son had his wash, he wanted to help with putting things away in the kitchen and felt reluctant, and then the alarm bells went off in my brain and said “No let him” and check out Mel Robbins Podcast about it: https://www.melrobbins.com/podcasts/episode-70

The more my son gets used to helping around the home and encouraged, the more he will stick to wanting to help out. It is going to help him be independent which as a parent is so important because me and his dad, and family won’t be around forever and I want him to be responsible. It is good to have responsibilities because it adds value to things and looking after the roof over his head. Not take things for granted and the more he learns to do daily chores the more he will automatically do it and tonight he helped clear the plates and bowls in the kitchen after they were washed up, without being asked and we, me and my mum, were like what else can be have him do now? Now he is taking an interest in doing everyday tasks.

Kids aren’t slaves nor is anyone, so not getting him to do everything, as he could end up getting fed up with it, but have your children do the simple things. Like making their beds, getting their own bag ready, helping to make their pack lunches for the Summer holidays when going out rather then buying food and carrying their own bags.

It is going to good long term, and kids like to take charge so let them do so, by setting boundaries of what they can and can’t do, and knowing when it is time for us parents to take charge.

Every step of their growth is as important from the beginning of their lives to the very end and of course some children and is hard to even type, die in their childhood and that is hard to comprehend, but I mean the end, meaning when they reach old age and had a full life.

Henry wanted to help with making his dinner and so he put on his apron and a hat I bought him for Easter this year and did little bits like cut his pizza, which we shared and carry the chicken bites, to go with it.

When we go shopping he likes to help carry the basket and look for the food. There were times he could be a monster and cause havoc but now he wants to get involved which is great and makes these times precious, because seeing him develop is out of this world and be more self aware.

So if your kids want to help with the chores then let them.

Many thanks for reading,

Carrie X

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The Parenting Network I discovered by researching other parenting sites, which comes as part of the job when blogging to find out what topics have already been covered by other bloggers and what I could add or do different that noone has talked about yet. With Parenting there are so many topics to share that would be helpful to other mums and dads, and I came across this article.

Through checking the Parenting Network I subscribed as they had some great tips and tricks, that can help you with many parenting dilemmas, and here is one that really caught my attention.

http://theparentingnetwork.co.uk/so-you-give-your-child-choice-a-or-b-and-they-choose-c-now-what-2/?unapproved=365&moderation-hash=b5562227474a499722343fea0b12228a#comment-36

I often have this battle with my son where he will on some days choose option A and B, but then on some days will choose C and it can be like “Why have you chosen not to today what’s changed since yesterday?”.

In one had you want your child and in the article in the link above that I have shared talks about this too, is that you want your children to make choices because it is part of their independence but you still got to get out the door to school or in the car, and so what I tend to do is say “Okay so you don’t want your shoes on today, okay whys that don’t you want to go to school?” and this does make my son think and then “You know you have to go to school because you are there to make friends and learn, and you enjoy it so why don’t we put on our shoes and coat and I am sure you will be much happier and wanting to put on your shoes wants we are there”.

Talking to a child rather than shouting is the best way to communicate effectively with your child and can lower a tantrum that is brewing. Check out my blog about Effective Communication

So I hope you find this helpful should your child often choose option C and what you can do to help still get out of the house but allow them to learn that sometimes option C isn’t always a good choice, and option A or B is better instead.

If you have tips on how to help children make decisions and how to still get you and them out to school or to the shops when they refuse to on a particular day put on their coat and shoes then please comment below. All tips and tricks from others is well and truly welcome as the more we support we give to one another the better we can often feel that we aren’t on our own and there is a solution, which often we feel there isn’t.

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Many thanks for reading,

Carrie X

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