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Copying with fireworks nights

It is that time of year when in the evenings, certainly where I live you can hear fireworks going off most evenings during fireworks night.

We even took our son to see some fireworks at my Step Dads school. I thought he would like them but he didn’t and soon went back indoors with my mum.

They can make young children jump and my niece had to back indoors too as she really got upset. Some children don’t like fireworks, not saying that fireworks night should stop, just think about and be prepared for when they don’t like them.

As a young child I didn’t like big bangs and would often cry because of how much they made me jump. Children can become used to fireworks, over time but can be a shock to them at first.

Don’t put them too near, we made that mistake. He wasn’t so so close that he could touch them in anyway as they had fences blocking the way to the fireworks, but try not to get them too close, the further away the less of the shock it can be.

If they become hysterical take them away until they have calmed down.

Be careful of sparklers, many a kid I remember as a child seeing adverts about kids touching sparklers and burning their hands, try and use glow sticks as a alternative instead or use glow up toys.

So if you are going to fireworks evening keep safe and never beat yourself up over it because they didn’t like it.

Never show them your fear the best you can, as this can rub off on them. Try and make them excited about fireworks, but keeping their safety in mind aswell.

If there is a bonfire, keep at a good distance so they can still see it, but they don’t get too hot.

Bring refreshments for the evening if there aren’t any there or give them their dinner beforehand if possible.

Wrap them up as it can be quite cold in the evenings. With Henry I put on two layers, a long sleeved t-shirt, jeans and a padded jacket, with some comfy shoes and woolly socks on.

So where are you going to fireworks or have you already been and you have some tips and advice to share I would love to hear from you.

Many thanks for reading,

 

Carrie X

 

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Toilet Training Success

I have been putting off of writing this blog, because every time I think we have succeeded with the toilet training Henry has an accident, but we are having less accidents now so we are succeeding. Last Friday he had no accidents at nursery, just when he was in the car, but the traffic near where we live is bedlam at the moment and took my husband 50 minutes from nursery to home so Henry had wet himself in the car.

However we are having super success and he is even doing number two’s in the toilet too. Sorry for the TMI.

We have just been putting him on the toilet every 2 to 3 hours or before or after he has eaten so he gets into a routine and has started to go to the toilet on his own. I think the accidents are caused, due to him occasionally forgetting or not realising he needs to go.

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My mum has really helped with it, it is good to have someone to help who has been there and done it. Toilet training children isn’t easy and letting them see you go can help, so they get to understand that they need to use the toilet now for wee’s and pooh’s, and Henry now is no longer in nappies during the day and we have had days where there has been no accidents at all.

I am even going to stop putting a nappy on him when he has a nap during the day, but the naps during the day are becoming less and less too.

Henry didn’t like using public toilets so we have this portable seat which you put over a normal size toilet seat so they don’t fall down the hole.

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These are great my mum bought us one for Henry and you can get them from Boots. One tip thought, put black stoppers underneath, helps to keep the portable seat still.

They come with a little bag you can put them in so easy to carry around and remember to wipe them over once used, I clean ours every time it is used. So carry some antibacterial wipes with you, when out to help keep the seat clean.

If you have any toilet training advice then all advice is welcomed. It has been a long process but pleased we are getting there and finally having some success.

Many thanks for reading,

 

Carrie X

 

Some Great Mum Hacks

I love Mum Hack videos and came across some of these videos which have some great mum hacks.

Check out Emily Norris Channel as she does some great Mum Hacks, check out one of videos below, which she collaborates with Kate Murnane, who also does some Mum Hack videos.

Let me know if any hacks you have come up with, I would love to hear from you.

Many thanks for reading,

 

Carrie X

Toilet Training videos

Check out these videos I discovered and found really interesting if you to are toilet training your child.

It can be a frustrating time for you and your little on, so getting tips and advice can work a treat, and knowing you aren’t alone can be comforting too.

The video above is worth watching as it talks about Elimination Communication, which some may call potty training from birth, but there is more to it than that. Watch the video above to find out if this is for you.

I found another video by Mom’s a mess, about how she potty trained her two year old son.

We are still going through the process but we keep trying and I think by continuing to keep changing him even when he has an accident in the bathroom is getting the message, that the toilet is where you go now if you need a wee or a pooh.

I did worry constantly about him having accidents but I have come to realise it is all part of the process and I just need to be patient and allow my son to learn in his own time.

I hope you find these helpful. I also found some videos on Potty Training on Channel mum website.

https://www.channelmum.com/

Please if you have some tips and advice on Toilet Training then all information will be truly welcoming,

Many thanks for reading,

 

Carrie X

Potty to Toilet Training

We have now decided to toilet train Henry rather than the Potty as it wasn’t going well and our son is still have accidents. We spoke to the Occupational Therapist who recommended the method to us.

When in doors he wears pants no nappy, so even if he does have an accident we take him upstairs to the toilet so he begins to make association and go through the method of him flushing the chain and washing his hands, so it becomes more structured routine.

Children with development delay can take longer to train. I felt so relieved now we don’t need to worry about the potty, and fingers crossed we will have better success.

I have come across some more helpful videos. Check this one out I watched yesterday about potty training.

I hope you find this helpful too.

Let me know if you have any tips and advice on toilet training I would love to hear from you.

Many thanks for reading,

 

Carrie X

Avoiding bugs for kids

With the weather being as it is, it is very easy to catch those nasty bugs, but they are avoidable by regularly sanitizing yourself ( washing your hands and body thoroughly) and your home.

It is tricky to fit in cleaning all the time, but doing a quick clean can make all the difference too just little bits can help keeps bugs at bay.

Keep wipes in each room so you can wipe any dirty mark away and keep polish upstairs as well as downstairs, keeping them away from the reach of children.

Clean as you go, just a quick tidy as you move around the house can help keep up to date with chores and put bleach down the toilet everyday, again keeping out of reach from children.

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Regularly change your sponges and cloths because these can have bacteria build up on them if continuously used and not replaced, and ring them out to dry.

Wash hands all the time when touching raw meats, chemical cleaning products and after you have been to the toilet. You’ll be surprised how many people you know and see that don’t do that, and I find it shocking that adults I know who don’t and they seem to be oblivious to the fact that they haven’t washed their hands. It takes two seconds and should be a natural thing to do, like breathing.

Put clothes straight into the washing machine instead in laundry basket as they can build with bacteria and wash clothes separately to towels and tea towels.

Use (this not an ad but a brilliant product) Detol all in one spray brilliant and kills bacteria.  Don’t forget to spray this on surfaces continuously used, on sofas, potty’s and door handles, bathroom, wherever you come into constant contact with.

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So if you have any more tips that I have missed then please share I would love to hear from you.

Many thanks for reading,

 

Carrie X

Returning to work

Looking for a new position, yes I am need of a change of career and very ready for it, and watching the One Show last night, where they were talking about mums finding it hard to return to work after having a child it inspired me to write this blog.

I have added a section about getting back work in my new up and coming book..watch this space…. in progression. 

After having a child it can be tricky subject and sometimes is a big dilemma of whether to return to work or not after having a child. In my opinion it is when you are ready and what suits your current needs. Never feel pressurized in returning to work if you don’t want to.

I decided after having my son to return to work, but to work part time. I was out of work due to being made redundant just before I found out I was pregnant, and took me ages to find another job whilst pregnant, and in the end it became too late and so I went straight on maternity leave.

I took it for grunted on how hard it would be to find another job. After I had my son and my maternity leave finished I was ready to go back, but didn’t want to miss out on my son growing up.

I wrote down what hours I was able to do and wanted to do and looked for evening and weekend work, I managed find a job working in Tescos. However it was tricky at the time with my husband doing different shifts aswell to do the evening hours so I looked for a weekend job and managed find one, working in a call centre, where I am working now.

Now my son goes to nursery I now work Fridays and Saturdays, but now looking to do more hours but in a different role, as I no longer want to do telephone work. I love writing and eventually would like this to be my full time career but until then I will need to continue to work elsewhere to help me financially for the time being.

If you are not sure and can’t make up your mind up whether to return to work then write down why you want to and what is holding you back from returning to work. Take it one step at a time.

It is up to you what you decide to do if you feel you need more time to adjust to being a parent then take that time. Becoming a parent is a massive adjustment in itself and it will change your life, you can start to see things differently including work.

I know some mums who have used the time whilst on maternity leave to learn that they want a whole different career and work path altogether, you never know to be honest until your baby arrives how you are going to feel about working and your life in general.

So take sometime to think about what you really want and if you do decide you want to go back to work then my tips are:

work out your hours you wish to work and days

find jobs based around those hours and days you wish to work

Update your C.V based on the jobs you are searching for

You can get help from the Job Centre if you need help with your C.V and if you go onto Universal Job match and Indeed.com they have daily job vacancies on their site. These are the main two job search engines I use and indeed was how I found the job at Tescos and in my current job.

Be aware when you add your C.V to websites such as Jobsite and C.V Library for example you may start  to get some agencies ringing you about vacancies. Be aware many won’t have a job available and just want you on their books.

I kept getting agencies contacting me to say they had a vacancy available only to get there and they didn’t. Plus they kept sending me to vacancies which were difficult to get to and I specified that the job had to be easy to get to by local and public transport.

To keep tabs on the jobs I applied for I bought a file box and kept my job listings I applied for in my file box.

Do your own research on the companies you apply for as it looks good when it comes to an interview that you know something about the company and it gives you an idea about the company and if they have a good working reputation or not.

What ever you decide remember it is your choice and no matter what no one else can make that decision apart from you.

Please comment if you too have advice for parents returning to work after having a child as sometimes it is good to know we have that shared support.

Many thanks for reading,

 

Carrie X

 

 

 

 

 

Coping with the heat

With the heat wave we have had in the U.K it can be tough to cope with, with our little ones, and so I wanted to share my tips with how I help my son cope with the heat.

 

Tip#1: Keep them cool at all times

When it is really hot with no breeze this can be tricky, but keeping your children cool as much as possible, and find where it is the coolest in your home or garden, have windows and doors open to let the cool air breeze through.

Invest in a fan.

Wipe them down with a damp flannel if they get too hot and only put on one layer of clothing.

 

Tip#2: Play outdoors, as it isn’t good for children to be stuck in doors all the time.

I find that my son copes better when he has some time indoors, away from the heat in a cool room with intervals of being outdoors. When he stays indoors a lot I find he can fall ill. Of course I clean my home and keep it clean, but heat when hot indoors can cause illnesses and bacteria to increase, so do allow some play time outdoors, but use sunscreen to protect their skin.

 

Tip#3: Cool warm baths always help my son cool down or have a paddling pool outside

My son has always been a hot child and so can get hot quite quickly, so it is important that I protect him from the heat as much as possible, so a warm cool bath does the trick, then just allow him to play indoors in his nappy or pull ’em up, or purchase a paddling pool, a great way to have fun in the sun as a family, making sure sunscreen is applied throughout the day.

 

Tip#4: Have plenty of liquids available to keep your children hydrated

So important, as children can become too hot and can become dehydrated so quickly so I make sure that I have plenty of liquids available, avoiding fruit juices and fizzy drinks as they can cause dehydration.

 

Tip#5: Keep cups and drinks in the fridge

Keeps them nice and cool, and have some water already chilled in their cup, so it will be nice and cold to drink, keeping them cool and hydrated.

So those are my tips for coping with the heat, please share your tips with me too be good to know how you cope with heatwaves and in the summer.

Many thanks for reading,

 

Carrie X