I do this a lot and not sure what is right and what is wrong a lot of the time. My son loves the trains and whenever he can’t go on a train he finds it hard to understand why at the weekend, and will keep on saying that he wants to go on a train, but last weekend being so hot and worried that they would be busy put me off, and have limited service on Sunday, in the end we were driven back, and didn’t go on a train.
However yesterday after school we popped out and watched the trains and it rained but being so hot it was a relief and actually was a success and last weekend before when we went to my nieces birthday he was fine, and there was a part where he wanted to find my brother’s and Sister in law’s family cat, but mainly played outdoors and it is when those moment happen you feel like “Oh I got something right”, and my doubts that I had go away.
You can only do your best
And that is true and stand by that. Having a child is a wonderful thing, and I love my son to bits but find hard to figure it out, and I hate letting him down. The one thing I need to work on is not saying for certain of what we will do and have a plan B. Something that was taught to me when doing my football coaching qualification,
always have a back up plan
because of unplanned events like travel disruption, someone becoming unwell or the weather. Today Henry wanted to wait for the fast train that goes by and got upset as it was coming to the time when my husband would be waiting for us and didn’t want to be late because of him finishing work and doing Henry’s dinner.
In the end though as we were leaving the view we had to watch the trains, to meet his dad the fast train went by and so got to see it, and made my son happy and it is good to have that time together, but was getting upset that he may miss it.
We are teaching him that we, his parents and other peoples turn to choose sometimes of what we will do on some days, but still involve him. This still something that he finds hard, but with more interaction with other children and putting things in place to help him with that hopefully he will understand why we all should get to choose and not be what he wants to do all of the time.
So lets work together in building up our kids and if you have any tips then please share them. You can leave a comment below.
Many thanks for reading,
Carrie X
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